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Woman blasts £4.99 'be my bridesmaid and help me get skinny' cards sold on Amazon for encouraging fat shaming - and claims they could trigger body confidence issues (4 Pics)

A bride-to-be has blasted 'toxic' bridesmaid cards sold on Amazon which she claims encourage fat shaming and could 'trigger' people struggling with body confidence issues.
Milly Foot, 26, from Bristol, was stunned when she spotted cards saying 'Please help me get skinny and be my bridesmaid?' as she browsed online for a card to give her teenage cousin.
The brand consultant is now urging Amazon to pull the £4.99 card, from independent third-party seller Peachy Antics, so that women aren't 'bombarded with toxic messages' about slimming down ahead of their wedding day.
Peachy Antics said they are a company 'specialising in banter' and that they 'can't cater to everybody's vulnerabilities'.
The company's owner also bemoaned the 'political correctness' that forbids the singing of 'baa baa black sheep' and said that anyone offended by the card should 'look the other way'.
Milly Foot (pictured with 27-year-old photographer fiancé Tom Winn) recently got engaged but became enraged after spotting an 'offensive' bridesmaid card on retail giant Amazon
Amazon is selling this £4.99 card, from independent third-party seller Peachy Antics, for brides-to-be to give to their bridesmaid - but fiancée Milly Foot says they could be 'triggering'
Explaining how she came across the cards, Milly said: 'I'd already got two bridesmaid cards and was scrolling through Amazon on my mobile phone looking for one for my 16-year-old cousin.
'As I scrolled down the page, the fifth one down stopped me in my tracks.
'Go back ten years I would probably have just rolled my eyes at the card and moved on, but I just thought, "Is there really a market for this now? Are people that close-minded?"

'I thought the world had moved on, but oh my god it's like going back in time.'
Milly added: 'There are so many things wrong with the wedding industry which I'm feeling now as a bride-to-be.
'There's this huge preoccupation with how you look on your wedding day - that's almost what the whole thing has become about and it's got absolutely nothing to do with [marriage].
The £4.99 cards are currently out of stock on Amazon. Self-professed 'offensive' Peachy Antics is a family-run card and gift company which boasts on its social media pages about being 'excited to offend more people'
'It sets a terrible example for a teenage girl and I hate the idea that she could think that she has to alter the way she looks to be a bridesmaid or a bride.
'It could trigger someone who isn't confident and make them think, "Am I supposed to be getting skinny for my wedding day?"
'I'm not super confident in the way I look, I'm just confident enough in my own relationship and know that [weight loss mindset] is toxic.
'For someone who's a bit more vulnerable or subject to body dysmorphia, it could be really triggering for them.'
Self-professed 'offensive' Peachy Antics is a family-run card and gift company which boasts on its social media pages about being 'excited to offend more people, make more offensive products and help you offend your friends'.
Other bridesmaids cards in its range include the slogans 'Will you be my bridesmaid? I promise not to make you look like sh**!' and 'Thanks for putting up with all the wedding bullsh**'.
Bride-to-be Milly, who plans to wed 27-year-old photographer fiancé Tom Winn in 2020, said she felt compelled to contact the online retail giant about the card to protect women from its 'harmful' message.
Milly said: 'My partner was at home when I saw it and he shook his head, he understands how bad it is and shares my views on it.
'Amazon is a huge company and probably don't realise the stuff is on there, I just wanted to bring it to their attention and get it removed.
'If that could be taken down and stop potentially damaging one person then that's a good thing.'
Senior research fellow in public health and obesity at Leeds Beckett University Dr Stuart Flint said women can be negatively impacted if bombarded by weight loss messages.
Dr Flint, who specialises in weight stigma and discrimination and the psychosocial effects of obesity, said: 'For women there is a common association between marriage and weight loss or becoming slimmer, where the association is often coupled with a message that by losing weight, a women will look better on her wedding day.
'Women often receive messages that they should lose weight to 'look their best' on their wedding day, which can lead to disordered and dangerous eating patterns.
'The drive for thinness has associated with body image concerns, disordered eating behaviours, self-harming and in some instances suicidal thoughts.
'These concerns are especially relevant and impactful for children and young people, where we know that children as young as three years old report body image concerns.'
Peachy Antics, who created the bridesmaid cards Milly spotted on Amazon and who say they specialise in offending people (their Instagram page is pictured here)
Co-owner of Peachy Antics, Shaun Peach, said: 'We are a company specialising in banter, it's not meant to offend anyone it's for people who take things light-hearted [sic.].
'It's one of our best-selling cards, you can't cater to everybody's vulnerabilities out there. Some people can take offence to some things whereas other people don't and find it funny.
'[We're] not out there to cause anyone any offence, it's more of a gimmick and a joke.
'You can't say certain things in certain nursery rhymes now without offending anyone, how far do you take it?
'You can't sing "baa baa black sheep" anymore. What's the world coming to? It's so politically correct now, soon we won't be able to say anything.
'If you look at it and you don't like what it is, you can turn the other way.'
Amazon declined to comment.

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