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Why I'm proud to be a 'kept woman': Stay-at-home mother-of-one, 26, insists critics are just 'bitter' - and reveals her breadwinner partner has to ask HER permission to spend his £25K-a-year salary

A stay-at-home mother-of-one who has been financially dependent on her partner since quitting her job two years ago and considers herself a 'kept woman', has hit out at critics - calling them 'bitter'. 
Gylisa Jayne, 26, from Cornwall, has been with Ryan, 27, a self-employed builder, for six years and they have a daughter Lily, three, together. 
She worked at the Premier Inn as a housekeeper five days a week earning £10,000 a year, but left her job in September 2017 following her maternity leave. 
Since then, Ryan has happily given her control over the household budget out of his £25,000 annual earnings, and she ensures he runs his purchases past her before he spends money on himself.   
While Ryan is happy with this arrangement, Gylisa admits she has received negative comments since revealing she is a 'kept woman'.    
'When I get comments from strangers, it comes from a place of jealousy,' she told FEMAIL. 'What age are you meant to be a "kept woman"? Age is just a number. A lot of people will feel bitter towards it.' 

While the concept of being a 'kept woman' is often associated with the wife of a high net worth individual, Gylisa feels she fits into the category because she has to rely on her partner for every penny. 
And she claims that self-employed builder Ryan likes being the breadwinner.
'It's the feeling that you're providing for your family,' she explained. 'It's a source of pride for him. He feels like he's responsible for everything we have and we're grateful for it. If you can earn enough to say you don't have to work if you don't want to, it makes you feel good.' 
While the concept of being a 'kept woman' is often associated with the wife of a high net worth individual, Gylisa feels she fits into the category because she has to rely on her partner for every penny. 
And she claims that self-employed builder Ryan likes being the breadwinner.
'It's the feeling that you're providing for your family,' she explained. 'It's a source of pride for him. He feels like he's responsible for everything we have and we're grateful for it. If you can earn enough to say you don't have to work if you don't want to, it makes you feel good.' 
'Then when I got pregnant I went on maternity leave and took the full year. As the year came to an end we were thinking about what to do with childcare as we didn't have any family down here. 
'I returned to work for two months but it made me miserable. He was earning to sustain us so Ryan just said, "look if you don't want to work then you don't have to" - so I jacked it in before Christmas 2017. 
'Your job gives you a bit of purpose but once I had Lily, I thought, "I don't want to be wasting me day in work when I could be watching her grow up".'  
But Gylisa, who goes by @rocknrollmother_ on Instagram, has received backlash following her lifestyle choice - despite the fact it's fully supported by Ryan. 
'The minute maternity leave ends there's this massive pressure to work,' she explained. 'I feel people look down on me for not working - almost as if i'm lazy. I see it very different.'
She added: 'I'm very privileged to be able to stay at home and I enjoy homemaking. I  was a housekeeper so I like making my own house really nice.'   
And as the mother-of-one sees her relationship with Ryan as equal, she ensures he runs his purchases past her - just like she does him.
'We see it as our money so we both run decisions past each other,' she explained. 'Last year Ryan bought a motorbike but beforehand he asked, "Is that alright?" Obviously I said yes. It's OUR money - we both put the hours in.'
But Gylisa, who has full control over the house's finances, has recently decided to put a halt to their spending. 
'I pay all of the bills and know what's coming in and going out,' said Gylisa. 'Last year we were going out a lot at the weekend so I said, "we're not doing that this year." I want to have money and to do something else with it.' 
But not everybody Gylisa has encountered shares the same view as her - and to anyone who believes she's too young to be a 'kept woman' she says: 
'Maybe they should look at their own relationships. I find it really strange people would have their own money in the relationship.  Once you're in a serious relationship, especially now we're a family unit, yes he earns the money but it's not really his - it's ours.'     
Day-to-day, Ryan will get up early while Lily goes to pre-school two days a week - leaving Gylisa with a chance to pursue her hobby of writing. 
'When Lily is at pre-school I do house admin and a lot of writing,' said Gylisa. 'If I wasn't writing I would probably get a job to fill the gap, but writing is my hobby.'
'Then I entertain Lily all day and do a lot of cleaning. I like to have the house all fresh and clean. Everyone always says how tidy it is. I'm quite houseproud.'
She added: 'I never sit and think I'm really bored. We're always doing things - especially if it's sunny we'll go out.'
But while Gylisa is spending her days visiting the local beach with her daughter, Ryan sometimes gets envious that he's missing out.  
'It's always harder when it's cold winter mornings and he gets up before us,' explained Gylisa. 'But we feel equal in our roles in that we're both working towards one household. He works and it benefits the financial side and I do everything in between.' 
Gylisa admits that while she has discussed swapping roles and earning the money instead, she finds the idea quite petrifying.
'I had a look around but it's quite daunting to look for a full-time role as I've been out of work for so long,' she said. 'If that's what Ryan wanted and we could afford our lifestyle on my wage then I would do it in a heartbeat.' 
But she has found there's a massive stigma attached to her lifestyle choice - and says there's far too much importance on being paid.   
'We've been to a lot of weddings lately and people will say, "what do you do?" There's a stigma when I say I don't do anything - anything that's paid.'
She continued: 'Some people will say that's really lucky or lose interest, but quite a lot of people hold a lot of importance in being paid.'
'A lot of people think if you don't get paid you're not successful. If i was working from home people would see it differently, but because I write and don't get paid a monthly wage they see it as me wasting my time.'

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