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'By the time you read this I'll be dead': British man, 80, leaves haunting letter as he ends life at Dignitas in Switzerland after wife was warned by police she faced 14 years in jail for helping him (6 Pics)

A British man with motor neurone disease penned an emotional letter to MPs and published it in the moments before he ended his life at the Dignitas clinic today.  
Retired accountant Geoff Whaley, from Buckinghamshire, chose to die in Switzerland, rather than face 'immense suffering' in the end stages of the devastating condition. 
The grandfather-of-four, 80, died peacefully in his wife's arms, and surrounded by family and friends, the charity Dignity in Dying said today.
Just moments before he passed away at 10am he posted a haunting letter to the Government, calling for a change in the law which he said, 'robbed me of control over my death.'
He revealed how he 'sobbed' for the first time in five decades when his wife was grilled by police for helping him die, adding: '[The law] sought to punish those attempting to help me get there. The hypocrisy and cruelty of this is astounding.' 
Mr Whaley wanted assisted suicide to be made legal in the UK after his wife of 52 years, Ann, was interviewed under caution last week and warned she faces 14 years in prison.  
When asked about helping her husband 'commit suicide', 76-year-old Mrs Whaley said: 'I don't think of it like that. When you've got a husband as brave as mine you have to support him.' 

Father-of-two Mr Whaley was diagnosed with motor neurone disease two years ago and in December doctors told him that he had six to nine months left. 
He had dinner with his wife and two adopted children, Alix and Dominic, at a hotel in Zurich last night. 
Mr Whaley has left letters for his four grandchildren, aged four to 17.
Mrs Whaley booked the flights to Switzerland and a hotel because her husband can no longer use his hands. 
But Mr Whaley revealed how the stress of his wife being summoned to a police station had, 'destroyed everything we had done to prepare ourselves'. 
He also wrote a letter to the Government asking for them to reconsider the law on assisted suicide. 
It was posted online shortly before he died. In the letter, he said he 'does not fear death, but fears the journey.'  
The 80-year-old said the final weeks of his life had 'been blighted by visits from social services and police.' 
He adds: 'I want to impress upon you the anguish me and my family have experienced, not because of this awful illness (though of course this has been incredibly difficult), but because of the law against assisted dying in this country.
'No family should ever have to endure the torment we have undergone in recent weeks.' 

The law on assisted suicide in the UK 

In England and Wales under the Suicide Act 1961 and in Northern Ireland under the Criminal Justice Act (Northern Ireland) 1966 it is a crime to encourage or assist suicide. 
This crime carries a maximum penalty of 14 years’ imprisonment. 
If someone provides encouragement or assistance, that is a crime, even if the person ends their life overseas in a country where assisted dying is legal.     
There is no specific crime of assisting a suicide in Scotland, but it is possible that helping a competent adult to die could lead to a prosecution for culpable homicide. 

Speaking on the BBC, Mr and Mrs Whaley discussed their decision to travel to the controversial clinic in Switzerland. 
Mr Whaley said he and his wife had 'reconciled themselves' to the fact that he would end his life and gave the reasoning behind his decision. 
Mrs Whaley also revealed how she was questioned by Thames Valley Police officers who were responding to an anonymous call received through the social services. 
She said: 'They [police] were clearly not expecting to find a non abusive situation . They were quite embarrassed.
'His final limb had gone and he could no longer do anything for himself at all...he can't hold a phone, he can't press numbers, he can't feed himself - whereas before he could hold a glass of gin and tonic even if I put a straw in it, he could do that.'
Mr Whaley added: 'It is one of the illnesses that you wouldn't wish on your worst enemy.
'The final weeks or months which can be particularly gruesome I decided that I didn't really want to go through that. We were quite reconciled to that.' 

What are the rules on going to Dignitas for assisted suicide?

Patients travelling to Dignitas need to be sufficiently healthy to travel from the UK to Switzerland, something that can quickly be robbed from patients with degenerative illnesses.
In May 2018, Dignitas confirmed the 394th person from the UK had died in its clinic. 
Dignitas says that in recent years there has been a consistent rise in the number of people from the UK becoming members. Between 2012 and 2016, membership in the UK rose 39% from 821 to 1139. In 2016, 47 people from the UK died at Dignitas, the equivalent of one person every eight days.
Campaign group Dignity In Dying estimates that every eight days a Briton makes the journey to Dignitas.
The average cost of obtaining an assisted death overseas is £10,000.  
The organisation, which was founded in 1998, is a not-for-profit society which strives of an 'objective of ensuring a life and a death with dignity for its members'.
Among others, its activities consist of the following:
  • Counselling in regard to all end-of-life issues
  • Cooperation with physicians, clinics and other associations
  • Carrying out patient's instructions and patient's rights with regard to doctors and clinics
  • Suicide- and suicide-attempt prevention
  • Support in conflicts with the authorities, with the management of nursing homes and with doctors not chosen by the patient
  • Further legal developments in regard to questions about 'the last issues'
  • Accompaniment of dying patients and assistance with a self-determined end of life.   
Any adult can become a member of the society, even if they are not a resident in Switzerland. 
The organisation claims that in order to join, one needs to fill a declaration of membership and send it in.
Dignitas will then confirm the acceptance of membership in writing and provide the Dignitas patient's instructions form.
The rules on going there for assisted suicide 
The organisation does require some information before allowing people to carry out an assisted suicide.
It claims that it only deals with illnesses which will lead inevitably to death, unendurable pain or an unendurable disability.
In this case it can, on reasoned request and with medical proof, arrange for members to have an assisted suicide. 
Mr Whaley decided he wanted an assisted death in Switzerland soon after his diagnosis, but worried police would confiscate his passport, so feared his only other option would be to starve himself.  
Police have since dropped the case, although it may be reopened should any new information come to light. 
Labour peer Lord Falconer critised the law on BBC Radio 4 today, arguing Mr Whaley should be given the choice to end his own life. 
He told the programme: 'The idea that this is anything other than his own choice is absurd. The law is a pig.'



The NHS describes motor neurone disease (MND) as: 'An uncommon condition that affects the brain and nerves. It causes weakness that gets worse over time.'
The weakness is caused by the deterioration of motor neurons, upper motor neurons that travel from the brain down the spinal cord, and lower motor neurons that spread out to the face, throat and limbs. 
It was first discovered in 1865 by a French neurologist, Jean-Martin Charcot, hence why MND is sometimes known as Charcot's disease. 
In the UK, Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis (ALS) is referred to as Motor Neurone Disease, while in the US, ALS is referred to as a specific subset of MND, which is defined as a group of neurological disorders.
However, according to Oxford University Hospitals: 'Nearly 90 per cent of patients with MND have the mixed ALS form of the disease, so that the terms MND and ALS are commonly used to mean the same thing.' 


Weakness in the ankle or leg, which may manifest itself with trips or difficulty ascending stairs, and a weakness in the ability to grip things.
Slurred speech is an early symptom and may later worsen to include difficulty swallowing food.
Muscle cramps or twitches are also a symptom, as is weight loss due to leg and arm muscles growing thinner over time.  


MND is difficult to diagnose in its early stages because several conditions may cause similar symptoms. There is also no one test used to ascertain its presence.
However, the disease is usually diagnosed through a process of exclusion, whereby diseases that manifest similar symptoms to ALS are excluded. 


The NHS says that MND is an 'uncommon condition' that predominantly affects older people. However, it caveats that it can affect adults of any age.
The NHS says that, as of yet, 'it is not yet known why' the disease happens. The ALS Association says that MND occurs throughout the world 'with no racial, ethnic or socioeconomic boundaries and can affect anyone'.
It says that war veterans are twice as likely to develop ALS and that men are 20 per cent more likely to get it. 


There is no cure for MND and the disease is fatal, however the disease progresses at different speeds in patients.
People with MND are expected to live two to five years after the symptoms first manifest, although 10 per cent of sufferers live at least 10 years. 
Occupational therapy, physiotherapy and medicines such as riluzole are used to palliate the effects of the the disease. 

Lou Gehrig's Disease

As well as being known as ALS and Charcot's disease, MND is frequently referred to as Lou Gehrig's disease.
Lou Gehrig was a hugely popular baseball player, who played for the New York Yankees between 1923 and 1939.
He was famous for his strength and was nicknamed 'The Iron Horse'. 
His strength, popularity and fame transcended the sport of baseball and the condition adopted the name of the sportsman. 
He died two years after his diagnosis.  

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