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'I'm ready to lean OUT': Mom-of-three becomes a viral star after penning a 1,000-word Facebook rant about the relentless pressures and expectations placed on working mothers

A mother-of-three has become an online star after calling out the impossible standards working moms feel pressured to meet.  
Sarah Buckley Friedberg, 35, from Needham, Massachusetts, candidly wrote about the relentless expectations that plague modern moms in a 1,050-word rant that she posted on Facebook on April 18.  
The post, which has been shared more than 30,000 times, details all of the pressures that society puts on working moms, from excelling at their careers to keeping their romantic relationships with their spouses 'alive and fresh.'  
Honest: Sarah Buckley Friedberg, 35, from Needham, Massachusetts, wrote about the impossible standards moms are expected to meet in a lengthy viral Facebook rant
Honest: Sarah Buckley Friedberg, 35, from Needham, Massachusetts, wrote about the impossible standards moms are expected to meet in a lengthy viral Facebook rant 
Family: Sarah stressed that her husband, Michael, is a 'fantastic partner.' She said  her goal was not to shame dads but to point out the expectations society puts on mothers in particular
Family: Sarah stressed that her husband, Michael, is a 'fantastic partner.' She said  her goal was not to shame dads but to point out the expectations society puts on mothers in particular
Sarah, who has a six-year-old, three-year-old and one-year-old, started her rant by pointing out that women are expected to return to work just six to eight weeks after giving birth. 
'Go back to work before you have finished healing or have had time to bond with your baby,' she wrote. 'Keep your mind on work, and not your tiny helpless baby that is being watched and cared for by someone other than you. 
'Make sure to break the glass ceiling and excel at your job — you can do anything a man can do! It is your job to show society this! Show the world that women can do it all. Rise to the top of your career,' she continued. 
'Also breastfeed for at least a year. So take two to three pumping breaks a day at work, but don't let it throw you off your game or let you lose your focus.'
Sarah, a full-time microbiology manager at a medical device company, went on to comment on the pressure for new moms to transform their postpartum bodies and take care of their families while somehow managing to get enough sleep. 
'Lose that baby weight and get back in shape, as quickly and as gracefully as possible,' she wrote. 'Make sure to get eight hours of sleep a night so you can work out, work, and care for your family. 


Going viral: Sarah's 1,050-word post has been shared more than 30,000 times and has received thousands of comments since April 18
Going viral: Sarah's 1,050-word post has been shared more than 30,000 times and has received thousands of comments since April 18 
'But also get up at 5 a.m. to work out, unless you want to do it after your kids go to bed when you also need to clean the house and get life ready for the next day and you know, sleep.'
Sarah noted that moms are expected to 'maintain a clean, Pinterest-worthy house' and 'take the Christmas lights down' while also being 'Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny, the Tooth Fairy,' and the' birthday planner' for their kids. 
Pressure: Sarah noted that society tells mothers they must excel at their careers, lose the baby weight, and have date nights with their husbands, among other things
Pressure: Sarah noted that society tells mothers they must excel at their careers, lose the baby weight, and have date nights with their husbands, among other things
Many of the messages are conflicting. Moms are supposed to be both 'fun' and 'firm.' They should 'read books' and 'have dance parties,' but it's also up to them to 'maintain the schedule for the entire family.'
The mother-of-three pointed out that moms are also faced with the task of making sure their children learn countless things, from swimming to 'being a good human.'   
'In case nobody told you, if you have more than one kid you will need to buy new shoes approximately every other day. See also: winter coats, shorts, pants that aren't four inches too short,' she wrote. 'There will never be matching socks or gloves for any member of the family, ever again.'
Then there is the family pet to take care of, the doctors and specialists appointments to schedule, 'healthy' meals to plan, and the school conferences that parents have to attend at least twice a year. 
In her rant, Sarah said that moms are told to 'date your spouse' because it's important to 'keep your relationship alive and fresh' — never mind that babysitters cost $22 an hour or more in some areas. 
Keeping it real: Her message struck a chord with many moms, and fans took to the comments section of the post to praise her for her honesty
Keeping it real: Her message struck a chord with many moms, and fans took to the comments section of the post to praise her for her honesty 
Moms are also being advised to have both 'you time' and social time with friends while also prioritizing 'self-care' and looking flawlessly put together.  
'Don't wear yoga pants and a mom bun or society is going to mock you in numerous witty blog posts. Never mind that nothing fits,' Sarah wrote. 
'Going to have to get up even earlier so you have time to style your hair, wing your eyeliner and search for a pair of pants that fits your new post-baby (or multiple baby) shape.'
Sarah ended her post with the reminder that moms should unplug and relish in every moment because their children will be adults before they know it.  
'Get off your phone, turn off the TV, and enjoy your life. Enjoy your kids. THESE ARE THE GOOD TIMES make sure to love every minute of life because before you know it all of this will be in the past,' she wrote. 
'I don't know about you, but I'm ready to lean OUT. Thanks for coming to my Ted talk.'
Sarah told Good Morning America that her pediatrician husband, Michael, is a 'fantastic partner.' The point of her post was not to shame dads but to highlight the expectations society puts on mothers in particular. 
'I was venting but also being humorous that there's not enough hours to do all these things,' she said. 'We have to prioritize and we do prioritize, but sometimes it gets to you.'
Sarah clearly struck a chord with many mothers, and her message has received more than 7,000 comments. Although there some who callously argued that she shouldn't have had kids or continued to work, many people praised her for her honesty.
'I am literally in tears!' one woman commented. 'Can't express this enough, we mamas are freakin' superheroes! So much love to you all.' 
'I couldn't even read all of that!' another added. 'I'm in the midst of doing so many of those. And here I am being called a lady of leisure as a stay at home mom.'  

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